By Andrew Borodin

Today I would like to share on improving the confidence and self esteem of your child. I know that this is a huge topic and we will not be able to cover it in any huge detail. But we will give it our best shot.

Most children have a healthy self esteem and are confident about who they are and where they come from. This is no accident. Their parents have been supportive and helpful in the young childs endeavours and development. Basically the parents have been there for their child. They have encouraged and supported the child to make sure that the child was successful in whatever they were doing. The small successes soon become big and the progression is that the child will be confident to take greater steps and have greater success. The greatest gift that any parent can give their child is LOVE and then after that is faith in the childs ability to succeed. Believing in someones ability gives them confidence that they can do it.

When a Child says, ' I am no good, I will never be able to do it..' Shows that the child has not been encouraged and supported. The child needs help in developing and building their confidence. It will have to be done by having small successes and proving to the child that they can do it and that the child is capable and that the child is GOOD.

You as a parent ask yourself, have I encouraged my child or have I put my child down? What type of language am I using, is it to my childs benefit? What can I do to make this better? Are you being too critical?

Most parents do not mean to belittle their children, but in the heat of the moment they do let it slip. ' Little Johnny you are the most useless boy I have ever seen, you keep spilling you milk like a baby.!!!' This certainly does not help little Johnny improve his confidence.

We as parents need to be mindful of what we say to our children. We need to say encouraging and uplifting things to our children. Like, great spillage, you need to concentrate on what you are doing and not looking at what is happening on TV when you are pouring the milk into the glass.

By speaking positively and encouragingly to your child you will see big improvements, especially in confidence and self esteem. Your children will not be afraid to make a mistake and will have the confidence to make well defined decisions without fear of failure. You as a parent you will be doing less nagging. Do you want your child to have low self esteem? If not. Then……. Be positive, Be encouraging, Get to it and Do It!

Andrew Borodin http://www.parent-child-help.com

Andrew Borodin is a retired teacher who enjoys helping kids and their parents build stronger family ties for their lifetime. http://www.parent-child-help.com

Andrew Borodin is a retired teacher who enjoys helping kids and their parents build stronger family ties for their lifetime. http://www.parent-child-help.com