By Dave Angel

Role-play activities, in natural settings, may assist your child in developing the social skills that he or she will need. This could include role-playing scenarios such as how to join in playground games, how to converse with class mates, what is expected in group settings etc. Providing them with a way to meet the special needs that they have may also be helpful. Special needs may include sensory integration techniques (of which I will mention more below), designed to reduce their anxiety. Anxiety among children with AS is common, usually because they cannot adapt to the stressors they experience. Most common among those stressors are transitional periods (such as going from school to home - which I will detail below).

During transitional periods, it is best to let your child fulfil their sensory needs, which may include obsessing about certain preferred items or activities. An alternative may include providing them with calming activities, such as massage, deep therapeutic touch or wrestling if that is their preferred activity. The trick is to find what makes them calm down, and then do it. What makes your child calm may be completely different than what calms another child, but thats okay. Difference is inevitable and as far as I am concerned diversity should always be welcomed.

The transition to school and home again can be especially difficult. Work with your childs school to develop a method that works well at both ends. Social activities are important for all children whether they have special needs or not. Therefore it will be critical for you to work out what makes your child socially acceptable and methods to teach them what they lack. Part of this challenge will be providing them opportunities to interact with other people where they will succeed rather than placing them in circles where they are not likely to succeed. For example is there a local scout group, sports group, church group or youth club that is led by someone who could be sympathetic and supportive of your childs needs? Often they will be happy to help you and your child with the right guidance. So in that situation you need to be a good advocate for your son and also an 'Aspergers expert' to teach the leader and others that run the group about your sons needs.

So to summarize this article it is essential that children with Aspergers are given the chance to build social networks and friendships. The challenge is that they do not have all the skills to do this. So it is important for the parent to teach their child through role play and other techniques these particular skills. Then the parent should also look for social activities for their son or daughter that will be a positive and supportive experience for them.

Dave Angel is a social worker with families who have children on the Autistic Spectrum and is the author of a new e-book that answers the 46 most asked questions by parents of children with Aspergers. To claim your free 7 day Mini-Course for parents of children with Aspergers Syndrome visit: http://www.parentingaspergers.com today.

By Dave Angel

This is also an excellent opportunity for you to 'scout' around the school and look for potential challenges and positives. Pay attention to things like physical room sizes, the number of pupils per class, color and light issues around the school. You know best your childs issues and mannerisms so bear them in mind when you walk around the school. But dont overwhelm yourself trying to look out for EVERYTHING on the first visit. Just think about 1 or 2 particularly important issues for your child and keep an eye out for things related to them (e.g. if your child hates crowds look at the classroom and break time set-up if you can). If you arent sure then ask your child before you go 'what are the 2 most annoying things about school? or 'is there anything you are afraid about the new school?'

When you visit it is a good time for you to introduce yourself to the teacher and let them know that you are there to help; providing just a basic overview of your child and what works best for them, as far as you know. Recognize that the teacher will have a number of children to deal with and that they want to help your child, but they may need to do things differently than you have at home. Let the teacher know that you are willing to support your child with homework assignments or any other projects that may come up. Be an advocate for your child but dont overwhelm the school or make demands on them that make it impossible for them to care for other children as well.

Also try to set up a practical means of communication with the teacher for when your child starts. For younger children this can be a 'communication book' going back and forth between home and school. For older children it may mean swapping email addresses or mobile phone numbers with the various teachers that your child may be taught by. In my experience email is the best way as its instant and does not rely on people remembering to pass phone messages to teachers - or teachers remembering to read and act on those messages!

Simple and effective communication systems are essential particularly at High School age. If you dont do this you can spend days trying to get hold of the teacher by leaving phone messages at the school. In the mean time behaviors may have got worse and also it becomes more difficult to understand and resolve problems the longer they are left for.

If your child is to be mainstreamed, they are likely going to need an aid with them throughout most of their mainstreamed classes. This person will be there to help them with difficult work and also monitor your child for overload; allowing them the opportunity to remove your child from the classroom prior to them displaying inappropriate behavior. Inappropriate behavior in the classroom is only going to make them a target for other children and it will serve them well to avoid that possibility.

So to summarize this article you should arrange to visit the school in plenty of time before the school year starts. When you visit remember to look for potential issues for your child and communicate with the teacher your willingness to work with them (and exchange contact details).

Dave Angel is a social worker with families who have children on the Autistic Spectrum and is the author of a new e-book that answers the 46 most asked questions by parents of children with Aspergers. To claim your free 7 day Mini-Course for parents of children with Aspergers Syndrome visit http://www.parentingaspergers.com today.

By Dave Angel

It is hard enough for parents of the child with Aspergers to understand why their child has this syndrome, much less why they behave the way they do. Teach siblings about Aspergers Syndrome to the extent that they are able to understand. Let them know that it is okay to be frustrated with their sibling who is affected, but it wont help their relationship. Let siblings know what that child needs, again to the extent that they can understand and provide as normal of an environment as possible. Try to make this as concrete as possible with real life examples of what you mean that they can follow and relate to. Obviously some family dynamics can make this tricky - but try to make some special parent-child time with the non-Aspergers sibling at least weekly. In order to do this you may need to look to your family, friends or local social services to offer the child with Aspergers somewhere to go for some respite. Whilst you can then do some activity with their sibling. This may mean staying in and watching a video or just chilling out in peace. Or it could involve a set activity like swimming, the cinema, walking, shopping etc. Whatever it is try to make it child-focussed so that your child gets to determine what you do (within reason!)

It is often tempting to coddle the child with developmental disabilities, like Aspergers Syndrome, and expect the other children to do so as well. But, the child with Aspergers Syndrome will benefit and learn social skills from their siblings as well, and they should be entitled to a reasonable amount of sibling rivalry as well as any other child. You dont want to deny the child with Aspergers the typical childhood, which includes fighting over toys and television shows. These formative sibling relationships and experiences have a major effect on children as they grow up (regardless of Aspergers).

So to summarise siblings need to know enough about their brother or sisters issues to give them an understanding at their level. They also need to know that it is OK to feel some negative emotions at times to their sibling, and where ever possible they need a little 'special' time with you on their own.

Dave Angel is a social worker with families who have children on the Autistic Spectrum and is the author of a new e-book that answers the 46 most asked questions by parents of children with Aspergers. To claim your free 7 day Mini-Course for parents of children with Aspergers Syndrome, visit http://www.parentingaspergers.com today.