October 30, 2008

Educational Software For Teaching Children

By Rebecca Walker

Toddlers

When your child is not yet able to read or write, dont feel that it is not possible to educate them and make them learn processes and other learning mechanisms which they can benefit from for the rest of their life. Many parents believe that teaching their child at this stage is far less valuable than teaching them practical applications of their skills in later years. However, one of the best ways to teach your child, at this age, can be through using educational software that has been designed on the back of decades of research surrounding how young children digest information and benefit from it in the long term. On one level, through using educational software, your children will become far more computer savvy than they otherwise would. They will be accustomed to how one can engage with a user interface through a control pad or keyboard. This, of course, is far from the only benefit. Educational software is usually designed to be fun for children and enhance their learning at the same time. If you decide to explore the educational software with your child, and also let them engage with it on their own, you can also help to develop a bond with your child.

Young Children

Young children can use educational software to further enhance their IT skills on one level. However, they can also use it as a means of being taught new, and the same things, in an innovative way that is proven to have results. Educational software adds a new dimension to how children are taught, other than by their parents and at school, which can ultimately reinforce what they already know and help them to understand things that they were otherwise having problems with at school. It is important that you do not just use educational software to keep your child up-to-date with the curriculum - you should also use it as a means of developing their learning and problem solving skills.

Teens

When your child reaches their teenage years, educational software can still play a massive role in how your child develops. When they get to this age, they can use educational software to learn general knowledge, problem solving skills and subject specific learning. This means that instead of learning how to read, for example, they can learn about historic events and how to calculate maths problems. These are things that they can be taught through software, because they now have the platform in place - in terms of reading, writing and, arithmetic skills - to develop and learn.

The author Rebecca Walker writes articles for childfont.com. He also gives valuable information about child development, home schooling & reading, child development & learning to read, active white board are accessible on the internet.

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October 24, 2008

Creative Kids - Scrapbooking with Children

By Tom Ambrozewicz

Toddlers

Even the youngest age group can learn beginner skills to scrapbooking. One way to get them involved is to have them try their hand at choosing colors and embellishments that they like. You may be surprised at how quickly a four-year-old picks up on concepts such as color schemes and layout design. You can also ask your child to help with the journaling. This works especially well when you create pages where your child is the main focus-ask for his or her thoughts on the day and include this in your journaling. You might be surprised at what they say, so be ready to write down some great quotes! Toddlers can also be given paper and markers to draw pictures about the event, and these can make heart-warming embellishments to your page.

School-age Children

As your child learns basic motor skills, such as how to use scissors, you can let them practice at making their own pages. Let them use the doubles of your pictures or pictures from the roll that are fuzzy or otherwise undesirable for your own album. Scrapbooking paper can be expensive, so unless your child has a genuine love for the craft, you may want to have them use construction paper, which is not acid free but will help you save money if all your child wants to do is play. At this stage, your child may be able to help you choose all the elements for a page or look through scrapbooking layout ideas to pick some of his or her favorites that you can then create. As a pre-teen, your child may have the skills to begin creating his or her own album and using real scrapbooking paper and supplies. This is an investment that will depend on your childs particular interest and skill level.

Teens

If your child continues to scrapbook at this stage, he or she probably can handle creating a beginning album. A good start is to use the school pictures your child has surely acquired over the years from friends. Encourage your child to be creative and to design pages that interest him or her. If you do digital scrapbooking, this is also a good time to introduce your child to some of the programs available online. The love of scrapbooking may continue past the teen stage and into adulthood, and soon your children may be creating albums that rival your own and teaching their own children how to scrapbook.

Tom Ambrozewicz is one of the pioneers in using breakthrough audio technology on his web sites. You can read, you can listen to professional narrator reading to you or having MP3 files ready to download if you hate to keep printed files. You can check all scrapbooking tips at Ask-How.info now.

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October 12, 2008

Child Custody in a Divorce - What is Best for the Children?

By Howard Iken

In most states, a courts decision about child custody during a divorce used to be simple to make. The judge would give custody to the mom. The dad got alternating weekend visitation. Now, custody decisions are drastically more complex. Many states have adopted a standard called 'best interests of the child.' Judges are required to weigh a list of factors to determine which parent is the proper custodian of the children. The level of complexity in custody decisions has drastically risen and decisions are no longer clear-cut.

Florida is one state that places an emphasis on the protection of children involved in a divorce. The best interests of the child are the guiding principles in Florida. Domestic relations law of the state outline a list of factors a judge must consider in every custody decision: 1. the childs school and home history; 2. the permanence of the childs proposed home; 3. the continuity of the childs situation; 4. the parents ability to provide the necessities of life; 5. love, affection, and existing ties with either parent; 6. any history of domestic violence; and 7. the parent most likely to promote the childs continued contact and relationship with the other parent.

There are two factors that appear to be most important: 6. the history of domestic violence and 7. the parent most likely to promote the childs continued contact and relationship with the other parent. The importance of considering domestic violence is obvious. If a child is awarded to a violent parent, the safety of that child might be compromised. But most people are not aware of and do not understand why factor #7 is so important: the parent most likely to promote the childs continued contact and relationship with the other parent. And because there is so little awareness of this factor, it presents both a great opportunity and great danger for parents seeking custody of their child. The 'best interests of the child' standard was developed by lawyers, judges, child psychologists, and social workers. It represents a balancing of interests and is designed to benefit the child. The states that have adopted this standard believe a child should have a continuing bond with both parents, even after a divorce. And that mutual bond is best promoted by a parent that promotes visitation with the non-custodial parent.

The parent that appears to promote the childs contact with the other parent will get a strong preference in a custody decision. The parent that refuses visitation with the other parent will hurt themselves in a custody decision. Cooperation with visitation can take many forms. A suggested pattern of conduct includes: avoiding discussions of adult - divorce issues with the children, making reasonable arrangements for weekly visitation, openness about sharing holidays with the children, and participating in joint decision making about major childrens issues.

If you are contemplating divorce, you should educate yourself about how courts and judges make decisions. By educating yourself, you can make sure a judge will look favorably at your behavior. A divorce does not have to be a guessing game. The educated spouse will always get a more favorable outcome.

Howard Iken is a Divorce Attorney practicing in the Tampa Florida area. His telephone number is 888-439-3486. More information on child custody decisions can be found at http://www.18884mydivorce.com/pub/Childcustody/child-custody-factors.htm General information on all divorce issues can be found at http://www.18884mydivorce.com

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September 15, 2008

Emotional Problems And Depression In Children

By Paul Kanute

Here are some useful tips on what parents need to know about spotting the signs of depression in children and how professional care, combined with skillful parenting, can help restore and promote a childs good mental and emotional health.

Cause and symptoms

Depression can be caused by any number of factors: traumatic events, such as the death of loved one or divorce among parents; a chemical imbalance in the brain; mental or emotional problems that run in the family.

Irritability, chronic fatigue, social withdrawal, poor school performance, lethargy and mood swings are all signs to look for in depressed children, Abnormal sleeping and eating patterns are also common in children suffering from depression.

Parents need to pay close attention for warning signs and then seek professional help from a medical expert if they believe their child id suffering from depression. Early detection and treatment of mental illness is crucial for children, and early intervention and management leads to happier and healthier child and adult.

Effective treatment options

Childhood depression can be successfully treated with professional counseling and, if necessary, medication. Counseling usually includes both the parents fully engage in their child, so its important that parents fully engage in their childs treatment. If medication is prescribed, then parents need to closely monitor their child to determine if it is working as intended and that no harmful side effects are present.

Supportive parenting

Aside from seeking professional help, the most valuable thing a parent can do for child suffering from depression is to provide strong emotional support. A child, even if depressed or emotionally detached, can sense if his parent are working for his recovery.

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September 13, 2008

Mysteries of Language Development In Children

By smartneurons

Since ancient times, parents have held a childs hand and taught him or her everything they know. Skills and ways to earn a living were handed down from father to son and mother to daughter. In the fast paced and ever changing world of today, you must know how a child learns in order to help it develop appropriate language skills.

The first step is to make time for the child in your busy schedule. Rework your life to give priority to the child. Spend quality time and read as well as sing songs to the child everyday. You could play soft music and other tapes like chants and so on in the childs room at specific times each day. Music enhances memory and learning.

Speak to the child and give the child time to respond. Make everyday activities a learning time–introduce names of foods, point to the bath tub and say bath, show the child the sponge or soap, help the child recognize the animals and toys in the bath by introducing things like ' baby duck–quack, quack.'

Children listen, they learn how to discriminate specific sounds, and then they associate sound with actions, and finally put together sounds with what they actually mean.

Be vigilant at all times. If you have any doubts or notice any problems please consult a doctor.

Play 'follow the leader'

Well have you thought of things you can do to encourage speech and language development? Well you dont need special training or courses to do this. Think about it–you smile and the baby smiles at you. So, if you play 'follow the leader' your baby will ape whatever you do and unconsciously learn.

So, you must make faces at and sounds like ma, da, ba, and so on at the baby. Strike a conversation with the baby while feeding, bathing, or bonding with the baby. Tell the baby what is happening and all about other family members and pets. Help the child recognize objects and colors by saying things like, 'Ah nice red ball, or cuddly brown bear.' Dont just use single words say, 'Mama loves baby.'

Interactive Learning Tools

Innovations in learning have been in existence since time immemorial. Early humans used the walls of the caves to express themselves and teach young ones. With time, humans used beads, terracotta plaques, and Abacus counters to teach. Colorful blocks and cards were used in memory games to sharpen retentive skills as well as recognition in children.

With the many innovations in technology and the fast pace life is taking, age-old methods of crooning songs while sitting with the child on a rocking chair, or spending hours just conversing with a child are fast changing. What is popular is interactive teaching materials that are fun, CDs and DVDs from companies like Smart Neurons and several other companies make learning a fun process. These are specially designed by language experts to enrich a childs vocabulary of words while simultaneously placing them in the appropriate context. The CDs and DVDs are more than interesting, they stimulate natural language and promote learning through play.

Stay One Step Ahead

You will benefit if you make an effort to find out all you can about language development. There are self-help books as well as web sites and articles written by experts.

It is important to understand that the learning curve for every child is unique. Some talk early while others do so a little later but most do catch up. So, dont be anxious and try and push the child. If in doubt, ask the doctor. Plan to spend quality time with the child, listen to the childs moods and choices. Introduce laughter and joy by singing action songs, making comic faces, and playing 'pat-a-cake.'

Article was contributed by Smart Neurons http://www.smartneurons.com . Smart Neurons offers kids educational software, video and other educational aids that encourage critical thinking, imagination and leadership skills among children.

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September 6, 2008

How to Handle Anxiety in Children

By Sera Redmonds

Of course there are ways to treat anxiety in children, but for that you need to know the nature and behavior of anxiety in them.

Symptoms of a suffering child

*The child may complain of headache and nausea more frequently. *He will perspire and exhibit marked nervous distress. *His thinking and decision-making will be affected. *His blood pressure and heart rate will increase. *The children may vomit, exhibit stomach pain and ulcers, experience diarrhea, or have tingling in the limbs. Shortness of breath in some cases.

Helping your anxious child

There are many ways to treat anxiety disorder in children, but above all, it is extremely important for parents to be patient and understanding. Do not say grow up, as their minds and coping mechanisms are still developing and they need love and support.

In recent years, it is common for the parents of a nervous child to be presented with a list of benzodiazepines or antidepressants. Antidepressants like xanax are effective and helpful but you should not order xanax or buy xanax unless the situation really demands and the doctor prescribes the same for your child. Moreover, there are better ways of treatment available for them.

*It is in the nature of a child to learn through play, play-based therapies have proven extremely effective in getting anxious children to open up and to share the causes of their fears and concerns. Find a cognitive behavioral child psychologist, in whom the child can confide and from whom they can learn coping strategies and calming techniques.

*Often when those issues can be confronted in a safe environment in the company of a trusted adult, the child can overcome their anxieties and move on.

*Anxious children crave routine. To help the child in the home environment emphasize regular eating and sleeping habits.

*Minimize their intake of dietary sugars and chemical food additives as these elements have been found to increase anxiety and agitation in children.

*Parents can help as much as the guidance of a trained therapist in providing a correct amount of support and reinforcement.

No matter how troublesome it appears to treat anxiety in children, parents should not let it pass off as a phase. This is because it tends to underestimate the childs concerns and makes them feel inadequate. Give your child the care and the share of love he deserves to grow up as a healthy and happy adult. Because he is yours, no matter how he is, you are the reason behind his entity.

The author, Sera Redmonds, addresses mental health related issues and anti-anxiety pills like xanax. If you wish to seek help for psychological problems to help yourself or your loved ones, you can log on to xanax-effects.com for more information and advice.

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Home School that Provides Your Children With a Good Moral Background

By Muna wa Wanjiru

When you are looking for a home school to enroll your child, you will find that there are many different educational programs that you can apply to. Since there are quite a lot of these programs it is best to see what type of subjects can be found in these programs. These subjects can be combined with religious views.

The many different home schools have subjects that are appropriate for school children of varying ages. The courses range from preschool all the way up to university. With these programs, there are curriculums that are acceptable for the various states. These curriculums will have a wide variety of subjects for parents and children to look over.

As you look for an acceptable home school for your child, you should remember that your childs education needs to match with their growth pattern. In other words you will need to look for a home school where you will find interesting subjects.

These subjects should change each semester. You should have the ability to find courses that can be adapted as time passes. All of the courses that you choose will need to be for a particular school period.

One of the better types of home schooling programs your child can be enrolled in is an accredited home study program. These accredited programs will keep track of the progress that your child is making. Since these home school courses match courses in regular schools, your child will be able to keep up with their peers.

By choosing a home school option you can give your child a varied subject matter to study. The various subjects like literature and world history are open to them. These can be covered as elective subjects. The normal subjects are one we are familiar with. So as you look through all of the subjects choose ones that are liked by your child. The main point to getting good grades is for your child to enjoy studying.

While the idea of a home school may not sound good to some parents, there are some excellent programs. These educational programs are acceptable by universities as well. Your child will enjoy getting a more personal teaching style too. And you will be able to spend more time with your child because of the home school program.

Muna wa Wanjiru is a web administrator and has been researching and reporting on internet marketing for years. For more information on home school, visit his site at home school

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September 5, 2008

Helping Children Cope with the Death of a Pet

By J Gardener

But while its a sad time in a familys life, it can also be an opportunity for learning, in ways that will help a child cope with lifes future stresses.

As parents, we naturally want to shield our children from pain and grief, but most experts agree that masking the reality of whats happening can only add to a childs confusion. We need to be honest and shouldnt avoid using words like 'death' and 'dying', even though very young children may not be able to grasp their finality. Phrases like 'put to sleep', on the other hand, can connect harmful connotations to normal activities; if a child thinks that sleep is something from which he may not recover, he could develop an unnecessary phobia of going to bed.

If a pets decline is due to age or illness, and euthanasia is recommended by your veteranarian, it can be helpful to include your child in the decision-making process. Explain the stiuation honestly: 'Spot is in a lot of pain, and the doctor cant make him better. We dont want him to suffer, and we can help him die in peace.'

Your vet has experience in explaining the problems of illness and the process of euthanasia to children, and most vets are happy to help you answer your childs questions. As well, if your pet has suffered traumatic injury, your vet is the best resource to explain the reasons for death.

Encourage your child to express his feelings. It may not happen with words-your child may not yet possess the nuance of vocabulary necessary to properly convey such feelings. He may find it easier to draw a picture of his life now, without his friend.

Express your own feelings, as well. Tell your child how sad the loss of Spot makes you feel. Hiding your pain may make your child wonder if youd miss him, if he were gone.

A number of resources are available on the internet for dealing with pet loss-Amazon.com lists many books written specifically for parents to help guide their children through the processes of loss and grief.

One important piece of advice many experts offer: Dont rush out to replace your cherished pet, in the hopes of quickly alleviating your childs pain. Allow the process of grief and recovery to run its course. Your child may not be ready to give a new pet the same love and attention he devoted to Spot. And, again, you dont want to teach him that lost loved ones can be instantly replaced. That can add to his own insecurity, regarding his place in your family.

Grieving is a natural part of life, and so is recovery. Sharing these processes as a family can help teach your child important life lessons, as well as provide the extra attention your child often needs, during this time.

J Gardener, a writer for Imaginary Greetings, Inc. (http://www.imaginarygreetings.com), is an award winning screenplay copywriter and a regular contributing author on many family oriented issues. Imaginary Greetings offers highly imaginative personalized family oriented products and services. For a safe and fun place online for your children this holiday season visit http://www.santaclaus.net.

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September 1, 2008

Why Children Need A Child Desk

By Misti Norusis

No distractions When a child shares a desk or a computer table with other people, other people or the things on the desk can easily distract him. For example, he may sit down at the desk to do research on a report on dinosaurs, but then fiddle with Mommys rolodex or discover his brothers computer games. A dedicated child desk lets you limit distractions. For example, you can ensure the childs desk is in an area that the television cannot be heard. You can also minimize the clutter on the table, leaving only art or writing supplies and paper. Even if she feels restless and unfocused, there isnt anything left for her to do but study.

Teaches neatness and responsibility When a child has his own child desk or study table, you can easily monitor whether or not he takes care of his things. Did he put away his crayons? Has he kept his papers neatly stored in a folder? You wont be able to do that if he shares the table with somebody else. First of all, he may not have his own space to store his study materials. Second of all, you dont know who left the clutter (and you can bet the child will always say it wasnt his fault).

Gives a sense of pride and ownership Children like having their own special place, and when they have a child desk they can really call their own, theyre more likely to stay there. Which means they will read more, write more, and just as importantly, take pride in whatever they make when theyre there. They feel responsible for what theyve done, and theyre darn proud of it. (Heres a tip: keep the wall next to the child desk empty, or hang a bulletin board, so they can post their recent art works.)

Greater Comfort When a child uses an adult-sized desk or table and chair when doing homework, theyre forced to slouch forward on the desk, shoulders hunched. Their legs dangle on the very high chairs, or they end up sitting precariously on pillows just so they can reach the screen. Kids give up trying to be comfortable and just try to finish their homework or research as fast as they can. Not exactly the kind of homework habits you want to develop.

This leads to posture problems that can eventually cause fatigue, discomfort, and aches and pains (especially in the neck, shoulder and back area). They wont be able to concentrate, much less enjoy what theyre doing and be inclined to continue doing it longer than they have to. Computer tables and child desks that are designed especially for children circumvent these problems and make 'work' more pleasant. They discover learning is fun–as long as they have the right 'support'.

In conclusion, a child desk is an important piece of furniture for the personal development of a child. The study habits, which she learns early in life, will undoubtedly benefit her educational and her eventual professional development for the rest of her life. Though a child desk cannot guarantee a straight A student, it is a great place to start.

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August 30, 2008

When the Child Wont Ride: Getting Children Accustomed to Motorized Riding Toys

By Mayoor Patel

Not every child will have this problem, of course, but its a pretty good bet that if its the first time a child has had a motorized riding toy, its going to scare him at first. While you and I might not think of a childs riding toy as particularly powerful, think about it from the point of view of the child for a moment. This vehicle is moving forward on some power other than his; it isnt as easy for a young child to connect let off on the accelerator with stop as it is for him to connect stop pushing this scooter with stop, for instance. If a child gets into a motorized toy without knowing exactly what it will do, how to make it do it, and how to make it stop doing it, the child is going to feel that the toy is out of control (even if its only out of control at two miles an hour and youre right there with him), and hes going to be a little frightened.

The best cure, of course, is prevention; take the time to explain to him what it will do, how to make it go, how to make it stop, what kind of noise it will make, how fast it will go, et cetera. You may wish to have the child sit in the passenger seat and use your hand to press the accelerator to begin with, until they can see how pushing down makes it go and letting off makes it stop. If you could somehow drive it the first time and have the child in the passenger seat watching you, that would be best, but unfortunately, that isnt really possible.

If the child has already tried to ride it on their own, though, and been so scared that they wont touch it, it will probably take time to get them used to it so that they feel comfortable enough to try again. Encourage the child to just sit in the toy without moving at all; have them make motor sounds and perhaps turn the steering wheel. Next, have them sit in the toy while you push it. Again, have them make motor noises (and make them with them if you possibly can) and turn the steering wheel. Demonstrate, first with them watching from the sidelines and later with them in the passenger seat, how pushing the accelerator makes it go and letting off makes it stop. And above all, be patient with them. Eventually, in their own good time, the child will feel comfortable enough with the toy to want to try it on his own. And once he does, its a good bet that he wont stop.

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August 23, 2008

Tips for Including Children In Your Wedding

By Masni Rizal Mansor

One tip for including children in your wedding is to understand that children under a certain age may not be capable of performing a role in the wedding ceremony and that even if the child is old enough to understand what is required of them; there are no guarantees that they will complete their task on the wedding day. Try to choose a ring bearer and flower girl who are over the age of four and while the adult participants may only need to run through their part once, allow extra time for the child to practice their part several times. If you choose a very young child or a child that is particularly shy you may want to consider having their parent accompany them down the aisle so that they are not overwhelmed on the day of the wedding. Also, be prepared for the child to completely forget what they are supposed to do and don’t allow their mistakes to put a damper on your wedding day. The odds are that if the child does not perform well, the other guests will simply laugh so feel free to laugh along with them and enjoy the pleasure that comes with including a child in your wedding.

Another tip for including children in your wedding is to try to really make it an experience that the child is looking forward to. One way to do this is to ask the child to participate in your wedding a few weeks in advance so that the child has time to really get excited about the idea and has a chance to tell their friends about how they are going to be in a wedding and wear a special outfit. Another way to get the child excited is to take them shopping for their wedding attire instead of choosing an outfit for them without their input. This helps to make the child feel as though their opinions are valued plus it lets them choose an outfit that they like and will look forward to wearing.

Still another tip for including children in your wedding is to have the photographer take any pictures that will include the children early in the photography session. While it is true that many children enjoy having their picture taking, they may grow impatient and irritable if they have to wait a long time to have their photos taken. Additionally, children are not used to standing still for a long time and will probably want to run and play which may result in rips or wrinkles in their wedding attire.

If the parents of the child are not in the wedding party you may want to ask one of the bridesmaids to assume responsibility for the child before the wedding, during the wedding and during the photography session so that the parents do not have to stay nearby and can enjoy the wedding and the cocktail hour. You might want to supply the bridesmaid with a small bag containing snacks and toys that will be useful in keeping the child occupied during times that may seem boring to them.

If you have a number of children in your family and want to include many of them one useful tip is to give each child a specific job. You may not be able to include all of your young friends or relatives as ring bearers or flower girls but you can give them each a task such as handing out wedding programs or bags of birdseed or placing the favors on the table at the reception. The children will feel important and you get to include them without adding length to the ceremony.

When including children in a wedding, it is important to understand that they may not do everything perfectly but you shouldn’t get upset with them and should instead enjoy the fun that they bring to the wedding with their spirit and enthusiasm. Including children in your wedding can be a lot of fun but there are some precautions that should be taken. Following the tips in this article will help to ensure that the children are excited to participate in your wedding and are well prepared to do so.

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August 20, 2008

Parenting - Gifted Children

By Bill Ronin

This is one reason some parents decide not to let their children skip a grade. They believe their children will benefit more from being with peers their own age and maturity level. They may opt to challenge their children with advanced books, assignments, and activities, while still keeping them at a grade level appropriate to their age.

Gifted programs in schools can sometimes be helpful, but they can also be problematic for some children. Many gifted children already feel different or 'odd' compared to their peers, so distinguishing them from the other children only makes matters worse.

Other children will thrive in such programs, because they are able to relate more closely with others like them. They also find the environment more to their standards, because activities and assignments are more stimulating than typical classroom activities. Stimulation is important, because gifted children often become board quickly. Their minds are always working, and they need something to keep their minds busy.

A gifted child will often be the first one to finish typical class work and may even get into trouble for fidgeting, talking, or disturbing others. This is generally a good sign that the child is board and needs more stimulation.

If your child is experiencing these kinds of problems, talk to the teacher. Ask him or her to assign your child extra work, a book to read, or an activity to perform such as spending time on the computer, once your child has finished regular assignments.

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August 14, 2008

Dealing With Adult Children Who Ask For Money

By Jerry Stearns

When adult children constantly ask their parents for money even after they have moved out on their own, the habit can be an indication that the child was never fully taught the importance of money management. They may not know how to make their own paycheck stretch properly for instance, or they may not understand the concept of how quickly money can disappear when you spend a few dollars here and a few dollars there. The adult child may also not understand the concept of credit accounts and cards, and if this is the case they are headed for some serious financial trouble in their future.

An adult child who constantly asks their parents for money is usually very used to getting money from their parents. In other words, the parents rarely if ever say no, and things have been that way for many years of their lives. When a child gets money from Mom or Dad anytime they want it as theyre growing up, they often continue the same habits and beliefs once theyre grown too. And unfortunately, Mom and Dad often continue handing out the cash even though the child is now an adult.

After a time of handing over money to your adult child regularly, most parents start becoming frustrated and wonder when the child will ever actually start standing on their own two feet. If however, the parents have fostered this behavior when the child still lived at home, and theyve been fostering it for some time after the child moved out to live as an adult on their own, then it will take some time and difficult steps to break the habits too.

As a responsible parent, you need to make sure your child is able to take care of themselves properly as an adult. And money management is one of the most important skills for you to teach them. It is easier to help teach your child money management skills before they reach adulthood, but all is not lost if theyre now adults and continuously expecting you to give them money.

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August 13, 2008

Children And Homeschool Behavior Management

By Mary Joyce

Each child is different and motivates differently, some maintain their attention quite easily while there are some that do not. Some children may be strapped with actual behavior challenges.

If the behavior becomes disruptive enough and constant enough that typical behavioral management techniques fail to produce change, it could be time to seek additional resources and testing for your child. This is generally true when managing the childs behavior becomes the focus of the day and actual learning is taking a back seat. This can be an additional burden if the disruptive child begins to affect your other children if you are indeed engaged homeschooling more than one of your kids at a time.

If indeed a learning disability such as Attention Deficit Disorder or Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder is determined then preventative measures can begin early on in your behavior management strategy.

With many children perceived behavior problems can actually stem from a lack of success in whatever tasks you may have them attempting to learn. In other words the child initially struggles to learn what is presented or cannot perform the task well enough to perceive success and this results in the child not wanting to do the task or stay focused on the learning event because they feel they have little chance of success. Frustration builds, and so does the 'attitude'. Success begets success and motivation will run higher making your behavior management a much smaller part of your day if you do your best to ensure successes with your childs tasks then celebrate each of those accomplishments. As the successes rise behavior and discipline issues will decline.

No one set of rules applies to all children. But barring the diagnosis of any of the more serious learning issues, reaching lofty goals and achieving high standards is accomplished by one small success at a time.

Mary Joyce is a former educator, successful homeschool parent, and has written many articles on teaching your child at home for the Homeschool-Curriculum-4u website. Please visit (http://www.homeschool-curriculum-4u.com) for more of Marys articles, resources on homeschool, homeschooling ideas, and curriculum.

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August 7, 2008

Its Not the Childs Fault; Believe it or Not, Poor Parenting is the Main Cause of Bad Behaviour in Children

By Anne Sprigpitt

They wont admit it as often parents dont know any different, but often the problem is due to poor parenting which manifests itself in bad behaviour in the child. This in turn has a negative affect on the home and work life of everyone in the household as strife and conflict dominates the family.

Anne Sprigpitt, owner of http://www.Parenting-Tips.info says, 'Most parents dont realise it, but their actions have a direct influence on the behaviour of their child whether they are a toddler or a teen. Almost everything a child learns in the first few years of its life is from their parents and it is all stored in the childs memory for a later date.'

'The biggest problems are due to a lack of discipline, boundaries and standards, and most importantly a lack of affection and display of their love for the child. However, these can easily be resolved by applying simple parenting principles and strategies which can have an immediate and dramatic impact on the behaviour of the child.'

'In many cases, children who are repeatedly violent and disruptive in school are found to have deeply rooted problems at home, caused by bad parenting. Once this is realised and acknowledged a number of techniques can be implemented and significant improvements are often found in the childs behaviour in a matter of a few weeks or even days.'

Parenting is not easy, but it is not hard either, provided you establish a loving two way relationship with the child, set boundaries and discipline the child appropriately when necessary.

For more help and advice on parenting visit http://www.Parenting-Tips.info and find all the tips you need for successful parenting.

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August 4, 2008

Six Basic Needs of Children, Adolescents and Adults

By Linda Milo

Physical Needs: These needs are the basics. The need for air, water, sleep, exercise, and sex.

Emotional Needs: This is the need for praise, love, trust, security, feeling OK inside, and self-fulfilled.

Social Needs: This is the need for companionship and friendship. This is usually gained from a peer group.

Intellectual Needs: This is the need for challenging thoughts, reading, learning something new, and mind stimulation.

Spiritual Needs: This is the quiet need inside that wants to know and believe in a higher spiritual power than ourselves. This need increases our awareness and sensitivity to the greater aspects of life.

Creative Needs: This is the need to express yourself in any manner you desire. This can include the arts, dancing, acting, and writing - almost anything that allows you to feel imaginative and inspired.

All of the above needs are usually a part of every humans life. All of us want to have these needs met in life. Having these needs met increases our enjoyment of living and creates a healthy body and soul. So how do parents fulfill these needs in their growing children? The first way is to become aware that the needs of a child are the same as yours. Being empathetic to your child at all times creates a bond that nurtures the needs of your child. For example, whenever your child wants to create or make something, allow your attention to center on your child and give him whatever you think will help to inspire your childs creativity.

My children loved to create drawings on large pieces of paper. I helped them do this by supplying them with the all the paper, crayons, paint, brushes, etc. necessary to stimulate their minds. Then I let them go to it! It was exciting to watch my child create a masterpiece of their imagination. Their artwork was sweet, beautiful and full of ingenuity. I then posted the artwork all around the house to show to their siblings and guests. As a parent, it was my goal to communicate with my child that I truly understood and valued his desires and feelings to be creative. I empowered my child to become all that he can be at that moment. This process immediately shows your child that his opinions and thoughts are valued.

By empowering your child, you are allowing your child to take ownership of their feelings, take responsibility for their behavior, make decisions that help them grow, follow through with commitments and most importantly, to become aware of the needs and feelings of others. You are giving your child the chance to experience success and understand his own uniqueness. Its rewarding for a child, adolescent and adult to have recognition and respect. By empowering yourself, as well as your child, you are fostering basic needs that truly make you glow inside and out.

At different times in our lives, we are capable of doing certain things. Stay tuned to where your childs capabilities are during his childhood and supply the above needs according to his stage in life. In fact, developmental stages continue right into old age. When a childs needs are met, his discomforts and fears are quickly removed and he finds that his life is truly a safe and fun place to be. This feeling leads to a child that learns to trust his environment and each successive stage of development.

Know that meeting these six needs in your childs life is not hard to do at any stage. Getting involved in your childs exploration of his life doesnt take money, but it does take thoughtfulness and time. Providing these needs throughout your childs lifetime allows your child to go through his stages of life with a healthy regard for himself and for society. It encourages your childs autonomy and capacity to do more with is his lifetime. Who can ask for more?

Copyright © 2006 by Linda Milo and Empowering Parents Now. All rights reserved.

Linda Milo, The Parent-Child Connection Coach, specializes in helping mothers and fathers turn their parenting challenges into a more livable, more workable, and more enjoyable family life. Her FREE better parenting newsletter covers specific, proven, and immediately usable methods for overcoming the most common parenting challenges. Visit http://www.empoweringparentsnow.com to subscribe to her FREE newsletter.

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July 31, 2008

Secrets and Children

By Audrey Okaneko

When my children were small, we began talking about secrets. What is a good secret and what is a bad secret? This seemed to be a concept my children could understand, while accomplishing my goal of not scaring them.

Good secrets are things that you get to tell mommy or daddy. Such as we bought daddy a birthday gift. Today its a secret but tomorrow we get to tell daddy. Another good secret is when the principal at school tells you there will be a party for your teacher but today its a secret. Tomorrow however we get to tell the teacher.

As your children get a bit older, a good secret might even be your friend telling you she likes a boy. While your child may be asked not to tell the boy, your child could certainly tell you this secret.

So what is a bad secret? A bad secret is a secret that your child is asked to NEVER tell. A bad secret might be another child admitting they did something wrong and asking your child not to tell. It might also be an adult acting inappropriately with your child and telling the child to keep this a secret and not tell mommy.

My kids asked of course, 'who will tell us bad secrets?'. I began to tell them that bad people tell bad secrets, and quickly realized this is not true at all. Instead I chose to tell them that a bad secret can come from both a child and an adult who is doing something wrong. To this day I still believe that only someone doing something wrong will ask a child to keep a secret from mommy or daddy.

My kids and I spent many hours talking about secrets and that mommy and/or daddy must always be told secrets. I also assured them that they would NEVER get in trouble for telling mommy or daddy a secret. I can remember a few times, my kids slipping and telling a good secret when they werent supposed to, but I kept my word and they never got in trouble. You see, I have often heard that someone acting inappropriately will say 'if you tell your mommy, you will get in trouble'. I never wanted my child to have a visual image of getting in trouble for telling mommy a secret.

Learn how to help your children learn the difference between 'good' secrets and 'bad' secrets.

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July 29, 2008

Smart Children And Smart Toys

By Jessica Davis

There are very helpful points that could help out in making your child even smarter:

* Each child has his or her own preference of toys. Let your child express him by deciding on what toys is fun for him or her. With this, it will be easy for the child to think creatively and use the toys.

* Childhood is a time to build bonds of friendship among peers. Interaction toys would be of great help as children get along with their peers. Toys like sport game toys would allow them to meet and socialize with children of the same age.

* Toys could boost the self-confidence of a child. There are these toys which when used could promote the reliance to ones self by a child or children. These come through construction toys. When a child builds it, he also builds the faith in his skill that this building may not be destroyed.

* Thinking independently is thinking smart for children. As they play using toys that will enhance their thinking and logic skills such as puzzles and mazes would be of great help in polishing ones head.

* A bit similar with interaction toys are relationship toys- these help the communication skills of children. We know how important communication is, therefore, these set of toys would realty be smart. These are really aid a child to meet people talk and listen and in the end, build links.

Toys are made not merely to be played with without purpose but we must see to it they learn and bring out the smart young people from them through smart choices of toys. Toys are here not to be used as early symbols of violence.

Jessica Davis is a freelance writer for the Cooking Times. She writes a regular column which is published every Thursday. Her latest favorite pick is Baby Genius Productions.

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July 28, 2008

Privacy or Protection, are your Children Worth it?

By Questor

One of the biggest controversies of parenting is the question of privacy or protection? Do you as a parent have the obligation of giving your child his or her privacy or do you as a parent have the responsibility to protect your child at any cost. Are they worth your willingness to do all that is in your power to see they are protected? Are they worth stepping up to the plate for and being the parent and not just a 'friend'. The Bible says in 1 Peter 5:8 'Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour': (KJB). The Bible also says in II Corinthians 2:11 'Lest Satan should get an advantage of us: for we are not ignorant of his devices' (KJB). So if we are not ignorant of satans devices then why would we put our head in the sand and carry on with the delusion that our children are safe on the internet. I am fully aware that the internet is certainly not the only weapon in satans arsenal, but the internet is such a powerful tool that satan uses, it must be examined.

One would have to question; how can something so useful and informative be so destructive at the same time. It is ironic how that at the same time knowledge is power, that knowledge is also weakness. Thats why it would be irrational to think that a child or teen could even remotely be strong enough to withstand the assault that will be placed on him or her while surfing through cyber space. So what about the privacy issue? So many in our society today say that you should give children their privacy and not intrude into their affairs. While I will agree that a child must not be smothered to the point that they do not learn to function properly in society, I also see nowhere in the Word of God that tells me to stay out of my childs business.

My child is my business. Too many today do not want to face the reality of responsibility as a parent. Too many are afraid of rejection if they 'intrude' or enforce rules but it never ceases to amaze me that a child naturally loves his or her parents no matter how good the parents are or how bad they may be. Then as the child grows older the love may still be present but for the parents that do not enforce rules or set boundaries the respect that the child has for the parent is greatly diminished. For a child that is never disciplined, will more often than not loose all respect for any authority, as we see this increasingly prevalent in our world today. You may ask, what does discipline have to do with privacy or protection? Being involved in your childs life in every aspect, no matter if the child wishes you to be or not, is a form of discipline. Therefore it takes discipline to protect your child. We all have heard the vile stories of so many children that have been exploited, stalked, kidnapped, raped, and killed from wicked, monstrous online perverts. Perverts that would come into the childs room night after night by way of internet, prey upon them like a pack of wolves.

Now if you knew that a pervert was in your childs room, would you continue to ignore the emanate danger and allow him or her to retain their privacy? The bottom line is we are the parents. They are the children. We must use common sense and stay informed as to our childrens whereabouts in cyber space. This is a real world and these are real problems. No one cares for your child like you do so why not take the necessary steps to do your part in protecting your child, whether he or she likes it or not. The hard reality is that you are liable and accountable for your child and his or her internet activity. Fortunately, there are numerous resources available to assist you in monitoring your child as well as any predators your child may be chatting with. Remember we must do what we can, while we can, for there will come a day when we wish we could, but we cant.

Thank you for you consideration on the subject at hand. Help is available and I have found several effective resources that will help you in Protecting your child Because their worth it! http://www.geocities.com/averagejoebargainhunter/Parental_Control

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Parenting Tips for Allergic Reactions in Children

By Jake Tyler

Many children have a severe allergic reaction to milk, peanuts, wheat, shellfish, latex and other types of allergens during their childhood. Having a child with these types of allergic reactions can be challenging. Even something as simple as a trip to the mall can be daunting. You wonder if its safe to feed your child food from the food court, or did they use latex gloves preparing it. You wonder if peanut oil was used in any of the foods and not listed on their menu. Even a friends birthday party becomes a hazard. You question the food he or she eats, the toys at the party and whether they are made of latex. You question everything like if peanut oil, wheat or milk was used in the birthday cake. Or if the latex balloons are going to trigger an allergic reaction in your child. The are so many substances that can cause a sever allergic reaction. Some of the more common ones are wheat allergy, an allergy to shellfish, peanut allergies, milk or lactose allergy, the list seems to be endless..

When children with allergies go to school, you worry even more because you arent there to watch over everything. You have to place your trust in the teachers and other adults to watch out for your child.

Your childs school must comply with Federal requirements of the 504 Plan to provide an allergy-free meal to your child. Most schools will be happy to accommodate your child if you approach them with a comprehensive plan. Make your plan very specific. List exactly what your child can and cant eat and what they can and cant touch or play with.

Working together with your school officials and educators, you can be your childs advocate so he or she can enjoy more of their school and more of the world as a whole. With careful planning and specific guidelines, your child can attend school just like every other child and you dont have to worry yourself sick about him or her.

As a precaution, send your child to school with an epi pen. Contained in an epi-pen is a single dose of epinephrine with an auto injector device. This has become a common method of protecting children against severe allergic reactions that they may encounter during school hours. Your childs school will be happy to keep an epi-pen on hand and youll both feel more relaxed knowing its there. Some children are mature enough to carry their own epi pen. The highest incidence of death from anaphylaxis occurs when a child having an allergic reaction doesnt have the prescribed epinephrine close enough to him or her.

The information contained here is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice. Please seek the advice of your doctor regarding any treatment for your childs allergies.

Jake Tyler http://kidspirit.com/allergic-child.asp

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