By Ann Marier

Helping Yourself Out of Bad Parenting Habits

According to studies, bad parenting habits are not only detrimental to the child but also to the parent. You may not be aware of it but bad parenting habits such as spanking or shouting at the child is very stressful on the part of the parent and the child. Studies show that when a parent is very angry, he or she becomes stressed. Since stress could often lead to many types of diseases such as hypertension, depression, insomnia among others, parents who can not control themselves when dealing with their children often suffer both physically and emotionally.

To help yourself get rid of bad parenting habits, you should learn to relax and be more tolerant towards your child. You must understand that children can be really a handful and it would not do you any good if you take everything so seriously. As long as your child is not harming himself or herself, you can at times just let him or her be. Give your child some room to enjoy what he or she is doing.

Another way to help you keep you temper in check and overcome your bad parenting habits is to plan out your day well. People are usually ill tempered when they feel harassed and out of control. In most cases, even people who do not have bad parenting habits would tend to snap at their kids when they are stressed out. By planning your day well you can avoid a lot of stress. Also, when you are planning your day, you should make sure that you organize some activities to keep your child occupied while you go about your daily routine.

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By Copyright ©2007 Carl DiNello

Todays multitude of parenting styles and strategies are created based on our constantly changing world, and the many factors brought on by the advancements of modern technology.

One of the most popular and effective parenting styles of today involves the training of children to develop responsibility while at the same time putting fun back into parenting. This principle is included in the parenting method commonly known as 'love and logic' parenting. This parenting style has been developed and advanced by former school principal and educational consultant Jim Fay, by child psychologist Charles Fay, and by child psychiatrist Foster Cline.

With this parenting method, two elements are emphasized to manage effective parenting: the showing of love, and the use of parental logic at the same time. The idea behind this theory is the simple use of logic in dealing with children. The parents are to provide an atmosphere where love, acceptance, and empathy exist. Within this atmosphere the parents allow the natural consequences of their childs behavior, and then use these consequences to teach the child a logical lesson.

Incorporating logic into parenting can be especially effective during the early years of a childs life when the consequences of a wrong choice are not overly detrimental. The encouraged use of parenting logic will help parents to raise a child that is fully capable of making the right decisions. A trait that will help prepare the child to face the challenges offered by adulthood.

How To Be A Logical Parent

Experts believe that parenting logic requires parents to advocate the raising of their children using logical decisions. What does this mean? The parents allow a child to learn that his or her actions will have corresponding consequences. Logical parents have learned the value of letting their children, whenever its appropriate, make their own choices as long as the decisions will help the child grow and mature as an adult individual.

Parenting logic is practiced using common sense and is not restricted by what is considered to be the norm, or what society dictates. Logical parenting is not to be confused with natural parenting where natural consequences are used to teach a child to learn from his or her own experiences. With logical parenting, consequences are arranged by the parent, and are experienced by the child for their specific misbehavior.

Experts distinguish the two styles by stating that using natural consequences will allow the child to develop self-discipline and internal motivation; while using parenting logic the consequences help the child to be more accountable for his or her actions.

Whichever style you prefer, its important to remember that in order to solve problems, or to discipline a child, the method you choose must remain consistent. Always bear in mind that parental guidance and discipline must always be based on fair and firm limits, and be practiced with kindness and respect for the child.

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By Anne Sprigpitt

They wont admit it as often parents dont know any different, but often the problem is due to poor parenting which manifests itself in bad behaviour in the child. This in turn has a negative affect on the home and work life of everyone in the household as strife and conflict dominates the family.

Anne Sprigpitt, owner of http://www.Parenting-Tips.info says, 'Most parents dont realise it, but their actions have a direct influence on the behaviour of their child whether they are a toddler or a teen. Almost everything a child learns in the first few years of its life is from their parents and it is all stored in the childs memory for a later date.'

'The biggest problems are due to a lack of discipline, boundaries and standards, and most importantly a lack of affection and display of their love for the child. However, these can easily be resolved by applying simple parenting principles and strategies which can have an immediate and dramatic impact on the behaviour of the child.'

'In many cases, children who are repeatedly violent and disruptive in school are found to have deeply rooted problems at home, caused by bad parenting. Once this is realised and acknowledged a number of techniques can be implemented and significant improvements are often found in the childs behaviour in a matter of a few weeks or even days.'

Parenting is not easy, but it is not hard either, provided you establish a loving two way relationship with the child, set boundaries and discipline the child appropriately when necessary.

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By Anne Sprigpitt

Kids can be frustrating, annoying and down right infuriating at times and yet youre still expected to love and care for the little angels through thick and thin.

They wont admit it as often parents dont know any different, but often the problem is due to poor parenting which manifests itself in bad behaviour in the child. This in turn has a negative affect on the home and work life of everyone in the household as strife and conflict dominates the family.

Anne Sprigpitt, owner of http://Parenting-Tips.info says, 'Most parents dont realise it, but their actions have a direct influence on the behaviour of their child whether they are a toddler or a teen. Almost everything a child learns in the first few years of its life is from their parents and it is all stored in the childs memory for a later date.'

'The biggest problems are due to a lack of discipline, boundaries and standards, and most importantly a lack of affection and display of their love for the child. However, these can easily be resolved by applying simple parenting principles and strategies which can have an immediate and dramatic impact on the behaviour of the child.'

'In many cases, children who are repeatedly violent and disruptive in school are found to have deeply rooted problems at home, caused by bad parenting. Once this is realised and acknowledged a number of techniques can be implemented and significant improvements are often found in the childs behaviour in a matter of a few weeks or even days.'

Parenting is not easy, but it is not hard either, provided you establish a loving two way relationship with the child, set boundaries and discipline the child appropriately when necessary.

For more help and advice on parenting visit http://www.Parenting-Tips.info and find all the tips you need for successful parenting.

By Michael Webb

There are specific parenting class offerings for parents of toddlers. This includes the 'terrible twos' and three year olds. By this time, the parent may be having difficulty with an out of control child and may need to learn aspects of disciplining the child that dont involve hitting or spanking the child. They may also wish to learn about things like helping their child socialize and toilet training. Parents may have other children and are worried about sibling rivalry. They may have a new baby on the way and may be trying to establish a calmer household with more than one child in it.

School districts will offer a parenting class for parents of school age children. This may be geared toward helping the child maintain friendships in school, helping children overcome learning disabilities and sibling rivalry. Children have occasional discipline issues as well, which can be handled in this type of parenting class.

An often overlooked type of parenting class is that of parenting teens. Children from ages 13-18 will change a lot during these years. They will test the limits of the parents and may get involved in sexual behaviors, drugs, alcohol or smoking. Parents of teens need to know that they arent alone in dealing with a difficult teen. They may need advice on how to set limits with a teen who is gradually growing into adulthood.

Parents may take a parenting class because they want to improve their abilities as a parent. They may also be ordered by child protective services or the court because the parent has had difficulties with the law or with child abuse issues. These classes are designed to help the parent cope with going back to parenting after the legal system says its okay for the family to be reunited. Parents who go to these kinds of parenting classes often are not happy going to them but must go to them before they can get their children back.

Couples may take a parenting class prior to adopting a child. As they did not know the child from the moment of its birth, they may choose to or be asked to take classes that help them be the best kind of parent they can be. In some cases, there are parenting classes for parents whose children are diabetic or parents whose children are autistic. These kinds of classes are highly specialized and bring together a group of parents who definitely have something in common. Such parents can also get together on a parenting forum to discuss issues even after the classes are over with.

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By Anne Sprigpitt Manchester, England - Kids can be frustrating, annoying and down right infuriating at times and yet you're still expected to love and care for the little 'angels' through thick and thin.
They won't admit it as often parents don't know any different, but often the problem is due to poor parenting which manifests itself in bad behaviour in the child. This in turn has a negative affect on the home and work life of everyone in the household as strife and conflict dominates the family.
Anne Sprigpitt, owner of http://www.Parenting-Tips.info says, "Most parents don't realise it, but their actions have a direct influence on the behaviour of their child whether they are a toddler or a teen. Almost everything a child learns in the first few years of its life is from their parents and it is all stored in the child's memory for a later date."
"The biggest problems are due to a lack of discipline, boundaries and standards, and most importantly a lack of affection and display of their love for the child. However, these can easily be resolved by applying simple parenting principles and strategies which can have an immediate and dramatic impact on the behaviour of the child."
"In many cases, children who are repeatedly violent and disruptive in school are found to have deeply rooted problems at home, caused by bad parenting. Once this is realised and acknowledged a number of techniques can be implemented and significant improvements are often found in the child's behaviour in a matter of a few weeks or even days."
Parenting is not easy, but it is not hard either, provided you establish a loving two way relationship with the child, set boundaries and discipline the child appropriately when necessary.

For more help and advice on parenting visit http://www.Parenting-Tips.info and find all the tips you need for successful parenting.

By Donald Saunders

The only children is frequently perceived as having difficulty in relating to other children, as being spoilt and selfish and as being unable to stand up for himself. In reality this is simply not the case and, while some only children do fit this picture, so do many children from larger families with brothers and sisters.

If fact, research demonstrates that being an only child can have its advantages and a significant number of only children have higher self esteem, better verbal skills, are more highly motivated towards academic achievement and have better relationships with their parents. In a variety of other areas such as leadership, independence, popularity and generosity there is little if any difference between an only child and a child with brothers and sisters.

Only child parenting does however bring with it a number of problems which the parents of an only child must be aware of if they are to strike the right balance between bringing up a child with the skills necessary to thrive as a full member of society and a child who will find it difficult to integrate.

In the modern world we are surrounded by people with whom we must interact whether through our work, socially, through hobbies and sports or merely through the everyday activities of eating out, shopping or walking through the town.

The skills that we need as adults to interact with others need to be learnt at an early age and this is especially important when it comes to only child parenting if you are to make sure that your child is not only given the opportunity to develop these skills, but is also given the right direction and guidance.

It is all too easy to allow an only child to cut himself off from the world and to unwittingly assist in this process. For this reason parents of only children need to take a lead and prepare their child to face the real world in a manner which is frequently not required in larger families.

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By Bill Ronin

This is one reason some parents decide not to let their children skip a grade. They believe their children will benefit more from being with peers their own age and maturity level. They may opt to challenge their children with advanced books, assignments, and activities, while still keeping them at a grade level appropriate to their age.

Gifted programs in schools can sometimes be helpful, but they can also be problematic for some children. Many gifted children already feel different or 'odd' compared to their peers, so distinguishing them from the other children only makes matters worse.

Other children will thrive in such programs, because they are able to relate more closely with others like them. They also find the environment more to their standards, because activities and assignments are more stimulating than typical classroom activities. Stimulation is important, because gifted children often become board quickly. Their minds are always working, and they need something to keep their minds busy.

A gifted child will often be the first one to finish typical class work and may even get into trouble for fidgeting, talking, or disturbing others. This is generally a good sign that the child is board and needs more stimulation.

If your child is experiencing these kinds of problems, talk to the teacher. Ask him or her to assign your child extra work, a book to read, or an activity to perform such as spending time on the computer, once your child has finished regular assignments.

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By Bill Ronin

This is one reason some parents decide not to let their children skip a grade. They believe their children will benefit more from being with peers their own age and maturity level. They may opt to challenge their children with advanced books, assignments, and activities, while still keeping them at a grade level appropriate to their age.

Gifted programs in schools can sometimes be helpful, but they can also be problematic for some children. Many gifted children already feel different or 'odd' compared to their peers, so distinguishing them from the other children only makes matters worse.

Other children will thrive in such programs, because they are able to relate more closely with others like them. They also find the environment more to their standards, because activities and assignments are more stimulating than typical classroom activities. Stimulation is important, because gifted children often become board quickly. Their minds are always working, and they need something to keep their minds busy.

A gifted child will often be the first one to finish typical class work and may even get into trouble for fidgeting, talking, or disturbing others. This is generally a good sign that the child is board and needs more stimulation.

If your child is experiencing these kinds of problems, talk to the teacher. Ask him or her to assign your child extra work, a book to read, or an activity to perform such as spending time on the computer, once your child has finished regular assignments.

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By Ann Marier

The different information sources used include family of origin interview, family of creation interview, parent-child observation sessions, if appropriate, interview of the child, standardized parenting vignettes, assessment checklists and inventories as well as other collateral information.

Factors Contributing to Current Parenting Practices

The parenting assessment tools help in understanding factors that contribute to current parenting practices, beliefs as well as skills. It includes parental empathy towards the child as well as child behavior perceptions and expectations of the child. Normally, this form of parental assessment can be finished in three to four sessions with each session being of one and a half hours duration. The assessment is performed by master level professionals who have clinical experience in working with troubled families.

There are other parenting assessments such as the St. Lukes Parenting Assessment and Skills Development Service that believe that children have the right to long term well-being, and children will be unable to develop successfully unless they are given adequate standard of care. Parents always wish the best for their children and strive to give them appropriate care; however, there are also parents in need of assistance, which if not provided, will lead to unsafe behaviors that will require Child Protection involvement.

In any case, parental assessment is all about gathering information from many different sources concerning the needs of the children, the ability of parents to meet such needs, and the skills as well as strengths of the parent. Such information is subjected to analysis in order to present recommendations based on the best interests of the child.

The need for parenting assessment arises out of therapists or lawyers needing to understand the manner in which someone approaches parenting and also helps takes stock of the strengths and weaknesses of such person(s). There are many instances where problems relating to a parents behavior or problems between child and parent need to be addressed so that a decision on behalf of the child can be taken. Parenting assessment is of help to lawyers, Childrens Aid Societies as well as community agencies in deciding what is best for both child and parent. All information gathered will then be submitted to the courts or lawyers or other concerned persons in the form of a written report.

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By Ann Marier

The fetal alcohol syndrome and parenting is a very well debated topic. Everyone knows the terrible impact alcohol and tobacco smoke can have on an unborn child. Here are a few very important aspects of fetal alcohol syndrome and parenting.

This article is focusing on the mother because it is the female who carries the baby in her womb and the fetal alcohol syndrome and parenting aspects directly concern her. However men too, need to be equally responsible with drinking and smoking in order to provide as supportive an ambiance to the would-be mother as possible.

If you are a would-be mother who is addicted to alcohol, you need to consider the following steps at once:

1. Inform and consult a doctor about what you need to do to ensure that the baby is not affected by the FAS.

2. Enroll yourself in Alcoholics Anonymous and solicit the groups help and support in shaking off the habit.

3. Enroll in a detoxification center and get rid of the habit with the help of medical supervision and treatment. Make sure they know you are pregnant; some anti-withdrawal medicines can harm the baby.

4. Surround yourself with photographs of healthy and beautiful babies, so it will encourage you to stay away from the alcohol for the sake of the tiny life that is forming inside your womb.

5. Plan many things for the baby. For example, have shopping sprees, theme parties, baby showers, etc all the time so it will keep you motivated to stay off alcohol.

6. Read many books on fetal alcohol syndrome and parenting and understand the dangers of alcohol and your responsibility as a parent well.

7. Keep in mind that you do not have the right to play with the life of another human being - and if you feel that alcohol will still remain your first love - do not have a baby. It is not only the impact of the fetal alcohol syndrome and parenting that is crucial, it is also how you will take care of the baby after it is born, what type of home you will be able to offer him/her and so on. This is a huge commitment and you should be able to fulfill it.

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By Elizabeth Newberry

No matter how many books we have read; no matter how many films we have watched; no matter how many nieces, nephews, and younger cousins we have; no matter how many teenage years we have spent babysitting for extra cash. Nothing can prepare us for the world of parenting the way actually having our own baby, 24 hours a day, seven days a week, 365 days a year.

When we become parents, we want the best for our children. We want them to have the best child care if both parents work full-time. We want them to have the best education, and many of us enroll them in pre-schools to get that education rolling early. We want them to eat the best foods, have the best exercise, and live in the best neighborhoods.

However, good parenting goes beyond just making sure our children have the best of everything in the here and now. Good parenting also means making sure our children have the best protection in the event of emergencies in the future. In other words, good parenting also means protecting our children with good health insurance.

Many parents can easily add their children to their own health insurance policies; yet, if a parent works a part-time job that doesn't offer health insurance benefits, or is a self-employed individual, finding good health insurance for children might take a bit more work.

The good news is that many health insurance companies offer health insurance policies specifically for children. If you are a parent who doesn't have your own health insurance policy for whatever reason, try calling your state's insurance agency and asking about health insurance companies in your state that offer these kinds of health insurance policies for children. You can also try searching the Internet for national children's organizations that offer health insurance benefits for children; there are many out there that do offer coverage for children of certain ages.

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By Paul Wilson

Parenting in simple terms just means loving your child, and teaching him to be a rounded and caring individual. Children need understanding, love, as well as a certain guiding hand which will help them make appropriate choices.

The keys to effective parenting are:

1. Understand that you child is an individual with the ability to think. Never try and mold a child into what you imagine to be the right mold for him or her. Every child has certain inborn talents and must be given the opportunity to discover their own identity and personality.

2. Instill in the child a sense of self confidence and trust in you. They must know that at any time they can turn to you for advice and help. Help the child discover themselves, their inner talents and strengths. Keep all avenues of conversation open. Listen to what a child has to say. You will be surprised at how much children know today.

3. Nurture your childs talents and give them the space and opportunity to fly with the wind and touch the skies. Never try and push a child into a study course or profession they are not comfortable with let the child find its own level.

4. Reassure the child that he has your unconditional love and support. Your love is not a measure of the childs behavior, performance, or achievements.

5. Freedom needs limits. Being understanding and lenient does not mean running wild. Children need rules to work under as well as a pre-determined schedule. This instills in them a feeling of security as well as discipline. So, a parent must wield the carrot and stick but subtly not like a military general or great dictator.

6. The adage, spare the rod and spoil the child is valid. What a parent needs to do is use positive methods to discipline a child. Never beat or abuse a child but devise a way in which a child looses certain privileges when he or she behaves badly or oversteps limits. Decide with the child whether it should be TV privileges, or pizza treats, or movies, or visits to the mall. Many parents find 'grounded' works well.

7. Create bonds that a strong and will stand the vicissitudes of time. Be warm, share interests, spend time together, establish routines and rituals, be vigilant and pick up clues when a child is upset or angry. Keep lines of communication open, a child must be able to come and share is troubles and problems with you without hesitation.

Being a parent is not about providing well, giving pocket money, or satisfying material needs. It is about creating love, understanding, and trust. Bonds that are formed in the early years of life will last a life time of good times and bad. It is important for parents to extend a warm hand of friendship.

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By Caitlina Fuller

Parenting troubled teens is never easy and different parents will have different approaches. Of course, doing what you feel is right is important but there are also some suggestions you should follow to help you understand that you are not alone in this situation and to help you through it. The teen years won't last forever so don't focus too much on your kid being a troubled teen forever. Instead, focus on helping your child deal with his problems so he can become the man you have dreamed he would become.

Patience
When it comes to parenting your out of control teens you need to have patience. This is a hard one because you will want to see positive results immediately. But, many times your child will simply need to outgrow the behavior. You may need to send your child to a teen treatment center and this will also require patience for the program to work. Overall, if you can be patient then you will be able to deal with the situation significantly better.

Proactive
As soon as you notice signs that your child is troubled you need to be proactive. Perhaps consider boot camps for teens way before you believe the boot camp is actually necessary. That's because an early start shows your child you aren't going to sit back and let him abuse drugs, alcohol, or do other things you don't approve of. Being proactive could reduce the intensity and length of your teens problems.

Unified Front
Many times parents are at odds with the decision they must make regarding their troubled teen. If this occurs in your relationship don't ever allow your son or daughter to know this. You must show a united front at all times. This includes considering military boarding schools for the child even if one parent is against this idea. When your child realizes you are together as a team and that he can't play one parent against the other then your plans for helping him will be more successful.

As you can see there are some tips out there to help parents of troubled teens make the right choices and simply deal with living with a troubled teen. Of course, it won't be easy and it will take a lot of will power to handle all that will come your way. But, your troubled teen will eventually grow out of his troubled ways as long as you focus on helping him overcome his problems.

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By Peter Andrews

* Give specific instructions. 'Be good' is not a specific instruction. 'Ill play with you after you brush your teeth' is a specific instruction. So is 'Put your toys into this box.'

* Experts say it is far better to have a few rules that you consistently enforce than to have many rules that you enforce only once in a while. Therefore, avoid setting too many rules.

* Rules and limits you set for your child should be appropriate for her age. They can be for the health / safety of the child and adults, or for other reasons. Above all, clearly explain both the rule and the rationale for having it.

* Give the child the opportunity to freely express his feelings about the limits you set. Even if those feelings are negative ones. Respond by repeating their opinions in your own words — 'I know you feel left out when mommy has to spend so much time with the baby.'

* Shouting at or hitting a child is counterproductive and dangerous. Such behavior shows a lack of respect for the child and can lead to other problems.

* Get to eye level with the child and make eye contact when explaining rules.

* Be brief but clear on the rule or limit. Talking too much is not very useful. In particular, avoid labeling the child as dumb, slow, etc.

* Speak kindly and firmly to the child. Emotion-laded speech and body language is not useful either, when it comes to teaching self-discipline.

* Cut out your personal involvement in the situation. Dont, for instance, accuse the child of having done something just to make you mad.

* When possible, give the child a choice between two alternatives that are acceptable to you. Being able to make a choice always gives a feeling of greater control to the child. He or she will then be far more willing to listen to you.

* Let a child know in advance whats coming. For instance, if she hates taking a bath, let her know that in fifteen minutes, it will be bath-time. This will help reduce her frustration.

* Be sensitive to the childs moods and feelings, When he is hungry or tired, hes much less likely to cooperate with a new rule.

Follow these suggestions and youll make it easier for the child to accept sensible limits and live by them.

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By Donald Saunders

The first thing you need to do is your homework. All preschools are not the same and not only are some better than others, but some will suit your child better than others. Take your time to draw up a shortlist of suitable preschools and then find out as much as you can about them.

Talk to friends and co-workers and see what they recommend. A recommendation from somebody you know and trust is an excellent starting point. But dont stop there. Once youve narrowed your list down visit each of the preschools under consideration and talk to the teachers. Use this opportunity to ask probing questions and to really get a feel for the school.

Having decided on a suitable preschool the next task is to prepare your child for the big day.

For most children the problem with starting preschool lies simply in the fact that this is the first time that they have been away from you and from home. The best way to overcome this problem is to introduce your child slowly and gradually to being away from you and to being away from you in a strange environment. This is not as hard as it seems and can usually be accomplished quite easily with the help of other parents.

Start by spending time away from your child by arranging for a trusted friend to keep an eye on the child in your own home. Begin by leaving the child alone with the friend for just a few minutes and then gradually build this up to an hour and then several hours. During this time the trusted friend can also help considerably by not simply acting as a babysitter, but by gradually introducing some structured learning activity into the time spent with the child.

Once the child is happy being away from you for extended periods the next step is to move onto getting the child used to being in a strange environment.

Start by moving the childs new learning activity into a neighbors house or somewhere unfamiliar and again build the child up slowly and gradually. Begin by caring for the child yourself, then together with a trusted friend and finally with the trusted friend alone, once more gradually increasing the time spent in this new environment.

One important element throughout this process is that the child should also spend an increasing amount of time in structured activity rather than simply in play. This structured activity should of course be fun and youll find it particularly helpful if you take your lead to some extent from the child and structure activities around things that the child enjoys doing. The object here is simply to introduce the child to the idea of concentrating his or her attention on a variety of different activities for a reasonable period of time and of completing one task before moving on to the next or being allowed a break to play or to have a drink or eat.

If circumstances allow, the ideal way to accomplish this preschool training is through a small group of parents in a similar situation which will not only allow your child to get used to being away from you but will also get him or her or used being with other adults, in a variety of different environments and also with other children.

Building your child up gradually over several weeks or months before preschool will mean that their big day is not quite so daunting. Of course, it will also go a long way towards helping you to overcome your own anxiety about the day too.

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By Kelly Nault, M.A.

This child has refused to order his own hamburger (as he has done many times before) and when I calmly tell him he can either order it himself, or go home without his burger, he goes completely berserk. Yes, I have entered into a 'food fare nightmare'–with my formidable opponent, an eight year old child.

I feel my cheeks flush as public onlookers wait in complete stunned silence to see who will win–the big one or the little one?

The Four Parenting Keys to Taming Your Spirited Child

Surprisingly, over my years as a family counselor, I have come to love working with spirited children. These children have a fire in their belly, a spark in their eye and a feisty attitude that assures their future in walking to the beat of their own drum instead of blindly following the crowd–a trait many parents hope for during the teen years. Yet that day in the food fare I was worn out, embarrassed and on the verge of saying 'I quit!'

Raising your spirited child can be exhausting. Fortunately for me, I learned some commonsense parenting tools that eliminated nearly all future fights. Allow me to share some of these parenting tips that can support your efforts in taming your spirited child.

Raising your spirited child with these four parenting tips can help you navigate the emotional mine field successfully:

1. Use consistency. Follow through on EVERYTHING you say. Spirited children are gifted at manipulating 'chances' and finding loopholes to obtaining exactly what they want. Hold your ground as calmly and firmly as possible–whatever you do, dont back down.

2. Talk less and act more. This works well, because when you get into a debate with a spirited child you are certain to lose! This is why in my 'food fare nightmare' example above I gave two simple options; to order the hamburger or go home without it (the talking less part); and then silently waited (the action part).

3. Develop patience. Waiting out a fight without saying anything (especially if a temper tantrum erupts in public) can be one of the most difficult, yet important, things you ever do as a parent. Spirited children are bright–they know that the biggest weapon in their arsenal is to push your embarrassment button. Swallow your pride–do not cave in just because you think you look bad in public. Remember if you cave in, your child will learn to use this trump card every time they want their way in a public setting.

4. Take time out for yourself. Parenting children is exhausting (especially a feisty child). Find little ways to take time out yourself (share child care with a friend, hire a babysitter more, use extra hours at daycare) so you will have more energy and patience to draw from during the trying situations.

What Does the Future Hold for Your Spirited Child?

These commonsense parenting tools tame the negative opposition, but let their beautiful spirit flourish. If you attempt to use traditional discipline practices and make your child do what you want, you face an un-winnable uphill battle.

Fortunately, commonsense parenting does not mean letting your child get away with murder! A commonsense approach uses firm boundaries, mutual respect and discipline–teaching a child to naturally learn and grow from their mistakes rather than fight you every step of the way.

In the midst of your next fight, you may wonder if there will be an end to the madness. I am here to tell you that there will be a resolution to your current dramas. In my case, these tips allowed me to triumph and actually enjoy raising a spirited child.

This same child who gave award-winning temper tantrum performances in public and could bring me to my knees is now a responsible, respectful and enjoyable 17 year old college student whose year ahead is completely paid by scholarships won. For me and him, we both won in the end. May it also be the same for you.

When taming your spirited child remember to keep the faith, learn commonsense parenting tips and know that eventually if you follow the basic principles above 'this too shall pass.'

Kelly Nault-Matzen, MA, family counselor, corporate parenting spokesperson and award winning parenting author of When Youre About To Go Off The Deep End, Dont Take Your Kids With You shares time-tested tools that motivate children to want to be well behaved, responsible and happy! To gain access to more parenting tools and to access your free online parenting course visit www.ultimateparenting.com

By Ben Euporian

Do you know what it means to be a good parent? That you try your hardest to do the best for your children. That doesnt mean youll always get it right!

Parenting comes naturally to most people; however even the most confident parents have questions at some point. This is why weve compiled a list of common parenting questions from parents just like you. Hopefully the answers will give you some ideas and strategies for raising your own children.

- How will I know when its time to move my toddler out of his crib? Once they reach 30 inches tall, children should be moved out of their crib and into a bed. This is a safety concern, because taller children are prone to falling over the edge of crib rails. If you are worried that your child will fall out of a bed, use a guardrail. There are many options available, and the best is a rail that slides between the mattress and box spring for stabilization. Another option is a toddler bed, which places your child just a few inches off of the floor.

- How am I best to handle the death of my childs pet? Chances are that if you have had your pet for some time, your child is very attached to the animal. Remember that just because your pet is not a person, it is still very possible for your child to have developed a strong attachment. When the pet dies, your child is just as likely to suffer from grief as they would be if a loved one had died. Be open and honest with your child - regardless of his or her age.

- How can I stay on top of trends? When it comes to fads and trends, the one consistency is change. What your child is begging for one day, he will be scoffing at the next. As a parent, you will need to make sure that your child does not fall behind the time, while showing them that not every fad is worth following. It is important to be clear with your reasons when you tell your child that they cannot have a specific item. And, you need to make sure that you do allow your child to follow some fads that dont pose a significant problem. Some parents will give in and allow their children to wear some of the more questionable teen fashions, while other parents will give in on video game trends. Still other parents will give their children the latest electronic devices. Todays big question is whether or not children should have their own cell phones, a trend that is increasing among pre-teens and teens alike. Its a matter of personal choice - but you will need to instill limits with your children right from the beginning.

- When should I start giving my child an allowance? A good rule of thumb is that when your child starts asking for money to buy items, they are ready to start receiving an allowance. Giving your child money of their own can be a great way to teach her child about the value and responsibility of money. When establishing an allowance system with younger children, consider keeping the money until your child needs it for something. This will alleviate a lot of frivolous spending, and guarantee that your child will not lose her money.

- How can I understand why my child loves to argue with me? Children like power. Arguing gives them a sense of power, particularly when you react instead of respond. One of the most important things to any older child is proving that he or she is right - and that everyone else is wrong. You will never win a power struggle with a child - so dont allow a power struggle to evolve in the first place. When your child starts to argue, state your response ONCE and walk away. If you need to repeat what you said more than one time, be prepared with consequences.

Questions come with the territory when youre a parent. So if you find yourself asking more questions then you know the answers to, youre not alone. In fact, we were amazed by the number of questions parents came forward with when we asked them what was on their minds. Hopefully reading the answers to these common parenting questions has given you something to think about.

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By Heather Owens

Amongst the commandments a parent should strictly follow are the following:

1. Do not underestimate your child - he can understand more than you think he does and if you make him believe you think poorly of him this might affect his development.

2. Dont use threats - a child loves a challenge and once threatened he might go on and do what he wasnt suppose to just to see if he can escape the punishment.

3. Do not bribe your child - if you are trying to get him to learn for money, for example, he will fail to understand the importance of learning, all he will get from this is the importance of money.

4. Do not make a small child promise something - small children cant hold promises so dont force them to lie and then punish them because they did that.

5. Do not keep them under a short leash - to grow up normally children need some space, some freedom.

6. Do not use big words or too many words when you are talking to your child - keep your ideas simple and concise so he can understand every thing you have to say.

7. Do not expect an immediate and blind obedience - it is not recommended, the child has to learn to think for himself, not to follow orders.

8. Do not indulge him too much - he can develop compartmental disorders.

9. Do not compromise when it comes to the rules of a game - the trick for a game to be educational is to have its initial rules respected.

10. Dont impose rules that dont go with the age of your child.

11. Do not try to inflict guilt - guilt is not an appropriate feeling for children, especially if they are little.

12. Dont give your child orders that you dont take seriously - your child will try to please you and giving him an order is drastic. It becomes cruel if that order is a joke.

All these 'commandments' are addressed first to the parent. But they need to be referred to by teachers and educators as well. Along with the parents, they will settle upon an attitude and strategy for the education and growth of the child, so that they can give him all the things he needs to properly develop emotionally and physically.

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By Moses Wright

Parenting a child with bipolar disorder presents its own unique challenges. Family and friends may have attributed your child's difficult behavior to stubbornness or other personality flaws. They may disagree with your parenting skills, however it is important to recognize and accept bipolar disorder for what it is - just another medical condition. If your child had epilepsy, no one would blame you or your child right?

Educating yourself about bipolar disorder is important when your child is diagnosed with this disorder. You will need all that knowledge you can absorb in order to crop with what is laying ahead of you. Online support groups can provide a wealth of information. Offline support groups will also give you the opportunity to speak to other parents dealing with the same issues.

It is important to take good care of yourself when parenting a bipolar child. Eating healthy, getting proper rest, and doing things for yourself can help you cope with the stress of the demands of parenting a child with special needs. On top of that, eating a balanced diet could also help regulate your child's mood and gives the nutrition required by a growing child.

Exercise can help your child burn off excess energy. This is especially beneficial if you recognize the signs of an impending mania or rage. Keeping a regular schedule, especially for sleep, can also help you manage bipolar symptoms.

Feel free to ask the doctor any questions you may have. You are your child's advocate. You should understand the disorder and the symptoms that your child is experiencing. The communication with your child's doctor is a two-way street. Who better than you can tell the doctor whether or not the treatment is working? Some parents find it helpful to keep a log or calendar to note your child's symptoms. If you feel like your child's doctor does not understand the severity of your child's episodes, you might want to videotape the rage episodes.

Therapy is an essential tool when learning how to manage bipolar disorder. Therapy teaches your child how to recognize warning signs of the illness and cope with their emotions. Family therapy can be helpful to the bipolar child and the whole family as each individual must learn about the disorder. Bipolar disorder inevitably affects everyone in the family.

It is important that you get your bipolar child the treatment that they need. The sooner bipolar disorder is treated, the better. If left untreated, it can only get worse. A majority of adolescents with untreated bipolar disorder end up abusing alcohol or drugs. Bipolar disorder is highly treatable. Finally, there is no reason to believe that your child will not be able to go on to lead a productive life.

Moses Wright is the founder of Bipolar Disorder. He provides more useful information on , What Is Bipolar Disorder and Life Of Bipolar Manic Depressive Disorder on his website. Webmasters are welcome to reprint this article if you keep the content and live link intact.